The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls

Reviewed by Ambrea

In her memoir, The Glass Castle, Jeannette Walls tells of her and her siblings’ remarkable story of survival and resilience in a family that was unique as it was terrifyingly dysfunctional.  Jeannette’s father was an intelligent, charismatic man with a drinking problem; her mother was an artist and a “free spirit” who chafed at the idea of taking responsibility for a family.  Jeannette and her siblings learned to take care of themselves, even during the most trying—and frightening—moments of their lives.

I have to admit, I had a difficult time starting Walls’ memoir.  It took months of coaxing and quiet motivating, before I finally gave in and picked up The Glass Castle.  I was firmly entrenched in my romance novels and fantasy stories, and I didn’t want to burst my own bubble by reading about the real world.  Moreover, I’d never read anything by Walls and, if I’m being honest with myself, I wasn’t sure I wanted to start reading her now.  I mean, what if she was awful?  I hated the idea of slogging through a poorly written memoir.

However, The Glass Castle is anything but poorly written.  Walls is a phenomenal writer.  As I settled in to read, I discovered she had an insightful, compelling voice and an incredible story to tell.  Her memoir tackles difficult subjects—such as neglect, abuse, mental illness, homelessness, etc.—but Walls treats these things delicately.  She recounts her life in such a way that you are able to see it through her eyes as she grew from a child into a young woman.  Walls’ memoir is an unexpectedly compelling and hopeful story about survival.  It’s a tragic, but ultimately satisfying read.

While I did enjoy The Glass Castle, I will note that this book also infuriated me and often made me want to chuck it across the room.  According to the back cover, The Glass Castle is a memoir about “the intense love of a peculiar family.”  Except I didn’t see it that way.  I mean, when I was reading, I didn’t see loyalty (unless it was between the Jeannette and her siblings) and I didn’t see love and I didn’t see this quaint, peculiar family; I saw intense neglect, if not outright abuse, and child endangerment and alcoholism.

I understand Walls loved her father and I understand that her father, as much as he was capable, loved his children.  However, I thought both her father and her mother were selfish, neglectful, and thoughtless to the health, well-being, and safety of their children.  I have only to point out that the first chapter that Walls was severely burned as a child while trying to cook her own food.  She was hungry and her mother wasn’t going to make her anything, so she did it on her own.  She couldn’t have been more than five.

Or then there’s the incident where she was flung from a moving vehicle.  Accident or not, that’s just reckless endangerment and it could have killed her.  Or there’s also the chapter where she speaks about digging old food out of the trash cans at school, so she wouldn’t starve.  All the while, her mother was squirrelling away food for herself and not bothering to feed her children when she obviously could.

I couldn’t stand it.

I liked The Glass Castle, but I was honestly disgusted by this book on so many levels.  I couldn’t stand reading about how much Walls adored her father, only to have him disappoint her time after time.  It’s heartbreaking as she comes to realize that the glass castle—her and her father’s shared dream—will never, ever become a reality.

I’m Perfect, You’re Doomed: Tales from a Jehovah’s Witness Upbringing by Kyria Abrahams

Reviewed by Christy H.

            Equal parts fascinating, amusing, and depressing, Kyria Abrahams reveals what life was like growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness with parents in a dysfunctional and loveless relationship. As a young child she is excited and dedicated to her religion but as she grows older and increasingly unhappier, she finds it harder and harder to stay committed – not only to her faith but to her own ill-advised, unhappy marriage.

            This is an interesting memoir because Abrahams does not try to paint herself in an overly sympathetic light. She is selfish, impulsive, unbelievably immature, and makes bad decision after bad decision seemingly without learning from her mistakes. Still, it’s not that difficult to feel sorry for her. She’s an alcoholic high school drop out with no discernible life skills who married as a teen to someone she didn’t love to get away from her parents. 

Sometimes she cuts herself. She’s never been on a job interview; she’s never even filled out a resume. All the more incentive to stay at her current job even though she works with her estranged father and shares a desk with her soon-to-be ex mother-in-law (who spends her work hours constantly berating Abrahams.) Because she wants a divorce she thinks (and is told) she is going to Hell. She’s in danger of being excommunicated from the only community she’s ever really known. She is only in her early 20s.

            Abrahams is able to find brief moments of solace, however, in poetry and comedy. The book itself has self-awareness and a self-deprecating, head-shaking tone. While it’s never quite laugh out loud funny the humor does help balance, without detracting from, the darkness of her depression and situation.  I enjoyed this memoir quite a bit but I do wish it ended with more closure, although I know life is messy and conflicts don’t wrap themselves up in neat little bows. After spending so much time with Kyria, however, it would’ve been nice to know the steps she took to get healthier and happier – which I’m hoping she did.