Reviewed by Christy H.
Equal parts fascinating, amusing, and depressing, Kyria
Abrahams reveals what life was like growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness with
parents in a dysfunctional and loveless relationship. As a young child she is
excited and dedicated to her religion but as she grows older and increasingly
unhappier, she finds it harder and harder to stay committed – not only to her
faith but to her own ill-advised, unhappy marriage.
This is an interesting memoir because Abrahams does not
try to paint herself in an overly sympathetic light. She is selfish, impulsive,
unbelievably immature, and makes bad decision after bad decision seemingly
without learning from her mistakes. Still, it’s not that difficult to feel
sorry for her. She’s an alcoholic high school drop out with no discernible life
skills who married as a teen to someone she didn’t love to get away from her
parents.
Sometimes she cuts herself. She’s never been on a job interview; she’s
never even filled out a resume. All the more incentive to stay at her current
job even though she works with her estranged father and shares a desk with her
soon-to-be ex mother-in-law (who spends her work hours constantly berating
Abrahams.) Because she wants a divorce she thinks (and is told) she is going to
Hell. She’s in danger of being excommunicated from the only community she’s
ever really known. She is only in her early 20s.
Abrahams is able to find brief moments of solace,
however, in poetry and comedy. The book itself has self-awareness and a self-deprecating,
head-shaking tone. While it’s never quite laugh out loud funny the humor does
help balance, without detracting from, the darkness of her depression and situation.
I enjoyed this memoir quite a bit but I
do wish it ended with more closure, although I know life is messy and conflicts
don’t wrap themselves up in neat little bows. After spending so much time with
Kyria, however, it would’ve been nice to know the steps she took to get
healthier and happier – which I’m hoping she did.
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